Originally Posted on thebookofjordanolivia.wordpress.com on May 28, 2015

Once upon a time it was so exciting to be smart. Be that girl who got good grades and looked good. You know, a girl with substance. Even if she wasn’t the best looking girl, didn’t have DD cups, or an ass that could sit a cup on it.

Now don’t get me wrong the new age of the “it” girl may have substance. But our society, pop culture, social media has formulated this DREAM girl, which frankly looks like a brats doll.

I would like to say I’m pretty confident in myself. I never was uncomfortable with my body type, never thought I was too skinny or I needed bigger boobs. I actually enjoyed my A cup, woohooo no bras most of the time 😁. Yet I find myself scrolling through ig or watching tv and questioning many things about myself.

“I need to waist train”

“I need to do squats”

“My poor saggy boobs”

I look so basic. I can’t believe how influential these women are on other women. You have famous or maybe insta famous I should say, nonetheless influential women promoting waist training or whatever new thing they did to maintain their 22 inch waist. When in reality most of the women we see on ig in this position have bomb make up artist, chefs, and some damn good filtering. Now don’t get me wrong there are many women who are born with the 34-24-36 which now the BABY GOT BACK GIRL is really 34-20-46 lol! It’s ridiculous. How unrealistic. Every “popular” page I go on the girls ass is looking fabulous and plump. No dimples. No marks. No love handles to go with that ass. Oh yea and not only is she blessed with a big ass she got a nice set of Full Cs to go with that. Her skin is glowing and her hair is on point!! It’s a harsh shot on the ego. Even for the confident woman.

I fear for my nieces and maybe future daughter. For all the young women out there. Who have these images to look up to. How realistic is it ? Hey, maybe it’s something in the water.. Or the extra pump of hormones in our chicken 😏 but I don’t think it’s realistic. Most of the time it’s the contour, that good filter, amazing surgeon, the waist trainer (which is not safe in my opinion), the butt pads or injections. It ain’t real life.

Women are beautiful! All shapes and sizes! I know it sounds so cliche but the fact that this IT girl has broken the scene it’s shattering a lot of girls dreams. It makes it really hard for a young girl or even an adult woman to feel comfortable with what they have to offer when it doesn’t look the way it’s “supposed” to. As women our bodies change so frequently! From puberty to pregnancy! And it’s hard to stay within these expectations that are held! Which I can go on and on and I probably will in another blog about the new pregnant moms and their post baby bodies! Having a baby and 2 days later you have a six pack! I think it’s definitely doable but I also think it’s unrealistic for some women. but like I said I can go on and on about that. I would like to see all type of women being noticed not for their bodies but for their goals. For their achievements in life! For being good women or good mothers. The list can go on!

I just hope that instead of creating an image of the perfect woman, the perfect woman isn’t just one “type” of a woman. Just let us be! If your skinny, rock it! If you got a big booty, rock it! If you got big boobs, rock it! Whatever we got, rock it! Do what makes us happy and make the world a better place. But don’t create this box for us to mold into. It will only lead to places we don’t want to go! And someday our daughters will have to deal with these issues and we want them to be able to love who they are!

That’s all I got for tonight! I’ll probably be revisiting this topic because I would like to do some more research ! But I had this convo with friends the other day and I wanted to write about it!

Xoxo

Jord